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November 25, 2011

Racial Divide for Online Dating?

Filed under: blacks, dating, online, race, research, study, whites — Tags: , , , , , , — admin @ 12:27 pm

On-line dating appears to be as segregated as the real world, say researchers from the University of California, Berkeley.

Researchers gathered information from more than 1 million profiles of singles looking for love online.

They learned that whites overwhelmingly prefer to date members of their own race, while blacks, especially men, are far more likely to cross the race barrier.

The Berkeley scientists analyzed the racial preferences and online activity of people from the United States who subscribed between 2009 and 2010 to a major Internet dating service.

In their profiles, the online daters stated a racial preference. Some said they preferred to date only within their race, others preferred someone outside their race, and yet others said they were open to dating someone of any race.

Researchers were then able to compare the online daters’ stated preferences with whom they actually contacted for a date, and they found profound differences between blacks and whites.

“Those who said they were indifferent to the race of a partner were most likely to be young, male and black,” said Dr. Gerald Mendelsohn, lead lead author of the study, which will soon be submitted for publication.

Overall, he said, “Whites more than blacks, women more than men and old more than young participants stated a preference for a partner of the same race.”

The reluctance of whites to contact blacks was true even for those who claimed they were indifferent to race. More than 80 percent of the whites contacted whites and fewer than 5 percent of them contacted blacks, a disparity that held for young as well as for older participants.

“Were they hypocritical? Alert to the realities of the social world? Striving for political correctness? Attempting an optimizing strategy of self-presentation? Our data do not permit us to choose among those alternatives,” the study authors wrote.

An estimated one in five Americans has used an online dating service such as eHarmony or Match.com, and a growing number are finding romance via Facebook and other social networking sites. The percentage of couples who have met online is now nearly equal to that of pairs who met through friends or family, according to the researchers.

“As the use of online dating services grows, people whose paths never would have crossed offline now regularly meet and have meaningful exchanges in the virtual world,” the study stated.

The last 40 years have seen a dramatic shift in attitudes in America toward black-white intermarriage – from three to one opposed to three to one in favor, said Mendelsohn. Yet, 2000 U.S. Census data shows that black-white couples represent just 1 percent of American marriages, he said.

The main findings of this study parallel the census data on marriage in that blacks are more likely than whites to be in interracial marriages, and that couples in which the husband is black and the wife is white are more common than those in which the husband is white and the wife is black, according to Mendelsohn.

“One theory is that blacks are acting like other minority populations in the history of this country,” Mendelsohn said. “They are interested in moving up in the power structure, and one way you do that is through intermarriage with the dominant group.”

According to the study, more than 80 percent of the online dating contacts initiated by whites were to other whites, with only 3 percent going to blacks. This trend held for both men and women, young and old. Although black participants initiated contact to members of their own race more than to whites, they were 10 times more likely to contact whites than vice versa, according the the study.

The researchers also tracked the rates of reciprocation among the pool of online daters, looking at how they responded once they received a message from an interested potential partner. Again, white men and women were most likely to respond to members of their own race, and only 5 percent of their responses went to blacks.

A major objective of the study was to gauge how changing attitudes about interracial marriage and an increase in dating opportunities have played out in relationships between blacks and whites. Also of interest to researchers was the question of whether the Obama presidency signals that the United States has entered a post-racial era.

“It is clear that we are not yet in the post-racial era, and evidence from studies of online dating suggest that waiting for its arrival will take some patience,” the study concluded.

September 1, 2011

One Third Of Us Have Tried Dating Websites

Filed under: dating, internet, online, partner, people, social, study — Tags: , , , , , , — admin @ 7:27 am

An Oxford University study suggests that nearly one in three of us who use the internet have visited online dating sites. An international survey of 24,000 men and women who are presently online found that just six per cent had gone to dating websites in 1997 but by 2009, 30 per cent of the sample had tried them with 15 per cent finding their current partner that way.

The Oxford Internet Institute (OII) conducted an online questionnaire with 12,000 couples from 18 countries, all of whom had regular access to the internet. They were asked a series of questions about whether they had visited dating websites, other online services and where else they might go looking for a partner. The questions related to the period 1997 to 2009.

Middle-aged men and women (aged 40-69) looking to start new relationships after 1996 were the most likely to use online dating sites, with 36 per cent of them revealing that they had found their current partner online. The study dispels the myth that social networking and online dating is primarily for the young with just 23 per cent of 18-40-year-olds saying they had started a relationship through the internet. However, only two people in the sample started a relationship in their 70s and neither did this through the internet.

The study reveals to what extent chat rooms and social network sites have played a role in introducing people to their partners. For people who began their relationship before 2000, less than 10 per cent said they had met on a social networking site. But by 2005 that had doubled to 21 per cent, while the popularity of chat rooms declined over the same period.

Study co-author Dr Bernie Hogan, Research Fellow at the OII, said: ‘Finding your partner online was once regarded as a bit of a novelty, but this survey suggests it has become a common if not dominant way of meeting new partners, particularly if you are between 40 and 70 years old. Our questionnaire also reveals that people who know others who date online are more likely to try it and approve of it. Our study gives us some insight into the significance and impact of the internet and how it is affecting intimate relationships both online and offline.’

Church events, family gatherings or activities based around a shared hobby are experiencing a slight decline in popularity as ways of finding a partner and this could be because they are viewed as less successful hunting grounds, says the study. For example, only one in 15 people who said they were looking through their church found someone that way. Despite the recent spike in online dating, most of the sample said they had met their partner through traditional offline channels – through friends of friends (67 per cent) or meeting at clubs or bars (69 per cent).

Co-author and OII Director, Professor William Dutton, said: ‘When you ask the question “How did you meet?” the most likely answer is still “through mutual friends” or “at a club or bar”. But this study suggests there has been a noticeable shift in dating strategies. Men and women are seeing the internet as a new place to meet – another option for the networked individual. A growing number now view dating as a distinct and intentional activity with its own set of contexts and conventions. The popularity of online dating seems largely down to its accessibility and the fact that people seem comfortable disclosing what appear to be personal details in a “pseudo-anonymous” online setting.’

The study reveals there might be national differences in attitudes to online dating. Users in Northern European countries are slightly but significantly more likely to rely on one-to-one dating websites while those in Spanish and Portuguese-speaking nations are more likely to use social networking sites as well. The most gregarious online nation appears to be Brazil – more than eight of out ten (83 per cent) of those interviewed who had access to the internet said they had met someone who had been first introduced to them online, but this was not just limited to personal relationships. By contrast, in Japan, a country known for embracing technology in so many ways, internet users were rather reluctant to engage with online dating.

The paper is based on the ‘Me, My Spouse and the Internet Project’ at the Oxford Internet Institute, University of Oxford, supported by a grant from eHarmony, an online dating service.

August 26, 2011

So You’re Dating a “Love Skunk”?

Filed under: bad, girls, good, guys, study, university, women — Tags: , , , , , , — admin @ 9:35 pm

According to a recent study by a British university, most good girls get attracted to bad, swaggering males. As per the study, women really do find moody bad boys sexier than cheerful chaps. Psychologists say brooding or swaggering males were far more alluring than happy men who smiled a lot, reported express.co.uk.

However, in contrast, men were more attracted to smiling women compared to straight-faced women. Volunteers were shown pictures of the opposite sex projecting different emotions for the study at the University of British Columbia in Canada. Researchers said evolutionary theories suggest a confident, proud posture in a male exaggerates masculine features, implies status and an ability to provide for a partner and offspring. Smiling was associated with a lack of dominance in men and ‘submissiveness and vulnerability’ in women.

Ashish Sinha, a college student, says good guys equals to being boring. “There is the general belief that good men are the ones most commonly known to be ‘too nice’. A very big misconception is the general thought that men who are nice are boring.” Psychologist Seema Hingorany opines, “It usually happens with girls who are emotionally disturbed. It is either because of family problems or personal issues that they become rebellious.”

Bad Guys are usually confident and ooze self assurance and this quality is what gets women falling for them. Plus, dating a bad guy is like eating the forbidden fruit — the more you avoid it, the more you want to eat it. Explains Seema, “Sometimes girls end up with the wrong guys because they have led boring and sheltered lives. They have been suppressed by parents who force their ambitions down their childrens’ throats, pushing them to pursue either engineering or to become a doctor. This in turn leads to rebellious behaviour. The very thrill that you get from being with a bad guy gives you a high. That is one of the main reasons why girls prefer bad guys over the good ones.”

March 16, 2010

Big Dating Myths — And Surprising Truths

Filed under: myth, study, truth — Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , — admin @ 7:34 pm

MYTH: When you’re prepping to go out on the prowl, put on a barely there outfit — men like women who show lots and lots of skin.

TRUTH: A new study published in the journal Behaviour found that, to reel in the boys, the ideal amount of flesh you should reveal is 40 percent. A crop top and mini crosses the line from seductive to skanky.

MYTH: If you’re into a guy, make the first move on him.

TRUTH: Smile at him, but then wait for him to come to you. A Northwestern University study discovered that the person who does the approaching usually ends up falling harder.

MYTH: While chatting him up on a date, focus on your shared interests.

TRUTH: Discussing stuff you have in common will make you feel connected. However, it’s also key to talk about interesting personal experiences and hobbies that are different from his. According to experts, being exposed to new and exciting things increases the chemical dopamine in our bodies, and that in turn builds interest and passion.

MYTH: Eat a low-calorie meal like veggies and salad when out with a guy in order to show that you’re attractive and take good care of yourself.

TRUTH: Despite a recent study from McMaster University in Canada that found women tend to do just that, most guys actually go for chicks who will eat a real meal in front of them, says Scott Kudia, author of If This Is Love, Why Am I Unhappy? Not that you should stuff your face, but men want to be with someone who will be herself around him. Nibbling at rabbit food reads as phony and guarded.

MYTH: The first thing that grabs guys’ attention is your eyes.

TRUTH: In a Cosmo and AskMen.com poll, 62 percent of guys notice a hot body. Only 27 percent are lured in by seductive eyes. (See myth #1 for a tip on how to show off your curves in the sexiest way.)

MYTH: It’s a good idea to “friend” a guy you’re dating, so that you can get to know each other better and feel closer.

TRUTH: A study published in CyberPsychology and Behavior found that being Facebook friends with the person you’re seeing increases relationship jealousy (ahem, like by clicking through pics of each other with your respective exes). It also leads to a sense of over familiarity that can doom a relationship, particularly in the early stages.

MYTH: Don’t talk about yourself too much on a date or you’ll seem narcissistic. Instead, ask him plenty of questions.

TRUTH: You should absolutely show sincere interest in him. But it’s equally essential to refer to yourself during conversation. Men go for women who use the word I frequently, according to a study published in Personal Relationships. Researchers surmise it’s because that term indicates self-disclosure, which promotes intimacy and closeness. It also reflects your independence — a huge turn-on.

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February 24, 2010

Five Photos That Actually Get Responses

Filed under: responses, study, women — Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , — admin @ 1:38 am

Dating site OkCupid conducted a sizable study to unearth what types of photos garner the most responses. And everything I thought was a turn-off is actually a turn-on, at least if you’re measuring turn-ons by quantity of messages and not quality, which the study did.

By looking at profiles for 18-32 year olds with only one photo — and removing the worst- and best-looking people — the study revealed these terrifying truths about what attracts men and women.

  • Duckfaces. We don’t want to encourage this, since we wished duckfaces out with the last decade, but now it’s scientifically proven that the duckface works for women. Men? Nope. Look away from the camera. No smiling.
  • Coy self-portraits. OkCupid calls it the “Myspace photo” You know it. Camera held above the head, and the face looks so thin and so sassy. Believe it or not, these things work. In fact, OkCupid was so shocked by the findings that it removed all photos that revealed cleavage from the equation, but the Myspace photo triumphed.
  • Shirtless photos for men. Is OkCupid creepin’ with guidettes? Guys (caveat: with great bodies) get more responses with shirts off than on. There is one silver six pack: the ab photo’s effectiveness decreases with age.
  • Cleavage shots. The cleavage shot — surprise — works, drawing in 49 percent more responses than other photos. What is news is that it works better for older women. Of course by older, I mean like 30, since the study only looked at 18-32 year olds. OkCupid hypothesizes that the uptick is because women show off their bodies less by their mid-20s, so those who do reap the awards. If an award is the type of guy who’d contact you for showing cleavage.
  • Show your face… or not. It doesn’t really matter. OkCupid thought it did, advising users to use pictures that show their faces, but its study found that responses remained the same whether you showed your face or not.

One glimmer of hope is that while posing with your pet or doing something interesting got the fewest responses, they also got the highest quality of responses, which was measured by whether or not a conversation started.

Are you shocked? Disgusted? Never dating again?

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