Do men and women view the world from completely dissimilar perspectives? Do they act as if they’re from separate planets? Are their motivations and agendas poles apart?
Or is the battle of the sexes a misnomer? Don’t women often exhibit masculine qualities and vice versa? Aren’t we all a little bit of yin and a little bit of yang?
In general, women are viewed as emotional and sensitive, primarily concerned with communication and relationships.
Men are known for being cool, inexpressive, physical, and sexual, with a propensity to resolve issues in a business-like manner.
A woman gets her esteem keeping the family together, thriving in love and intimacy. A man’s worth is tied to his financial success, with the role as the bread winner.
Consequently, the man has to be more accountable and tolerate more in the workplace. As primary provider, he can’t afford to leave or be fired from his job.
Traditionally, it doesn’t matter if the woman is the earner or not, but for the man to be a real man, he has to be the bigger earner.
Women are notoriously attracted to success and the guy wants to be appealing, so his value depends on bringing home the bacon.
This transfers to dating, where a man may feel interrogated by a lot of questions, especially regarding economic status. A woman’s innocent interest in a man’s residence, career, or car can brand her a gold digger.
Since men are so work oriented, they consider initial dates as a job interview, which in some sense is quite accurate. Men try to sell themselves, hoping to land the position of ‘mate.’
On the other hand, men’s inquiries into women’s former marriage(s) or children may cause defensiveness for fear he’ll label her a failure, a disappointment, as her identity is linked to flourishing familial relationships.
Women and men have different physiological components, i.e. brain patterns, chemistry. There are 78 genes in the Y chromosome that are different from those in the X chromosome.
Characteristically, men process things logically, in black and white; women sentimentally, in the gray area.
Men are visual; women verbal. When a man sees someone alluring, he responds physically; women react emotionally.
That’s why after making love, men can fall asleep, feeling fulfilled, while women want to continue the connection, through talking, touching, cuddling.
Women fall faster; men harder. Women will speak of being in love after having sex once or twice: men just use those terms after knowing you on a deeper level.
Men tend to be loners. Women are inclined to travel in packs. Women show up at parties in a group; men come alone or with another buddy.
Ever wonder why it’s difficult to get your guy away from his favorite sports program, while Venusians can simultaneously watch TV, talk, cook, and clean? It’s because women are comfortable multi-tasking; men are at ease focusing on a single item.
Women have better memories for details. Consequently, men often forget birthdays and anniversaries.
Men find comfort in solving problems. Women don’t necessarily need solutions to their quandaries. They’re not looking for advice. It suffices for them to be heard and acknowledged.
Rather than trying to fix the dilemma presented, men can work wonders by practicing active listening, and subsequently, gaining amazing admiration and adoration from their partners.
Men and women have different time clocks. If a woman doesn’t hear from you in a day or two, it’s like an eternity. To a man it’s merely minutes.
If the guy waits several days to call, she’s likely to have already built up irritation and resentment, evident by her tone of voice. Conversely, he can’t comprehend her offense, given that he’s only experienced a short period passing.
Take into account that when a man doesn’t call you back right away, it may have nothing to do with you. He may simply be sorting out his thoughts as they do on Mars.
Consider that the reason she’s asking about your livelihood isn’t her desire to find a sugar daddy but an honesty curiosity into what makes you tick and what’s meaningful for you.
Society teaches men it’s not ok to cry, ‘be tough,’ ‘take it like a man’. Anger is permitted but any evidence of a softer side is taboo.
Yet look behind the strong facade and you’ll find someone stinging with the same insecurities, jealousy, hurt, and fear that women possess.
Perhaps if men were encouraged to convey their full range of emotions, there’d be a lot less warring between individuals, as well as nations.
Whether you’re from Mars or Venus, no matter how you travel on your journey, we’re all looking to love and be loved.
Singles slogan for today: I’m beginning to embrace all aspects of my true self, in celebration of how much closer I am to becoming the person I’m intended to be.
