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December 21, 2011

Like Me Date Me

Filed under: date, dating, facebook, online, profile, service, site, users — Tags: date, dating, facebook, online, profile, service, site, users — admin @ 6:32 am

By Adam DuVander

Like Me Date Me is a new dating site built on top of the Facebook Graph API, which provides search-able access to user profile information. The service displays a photo and limited profile information of whichever gender you want to see. As the name of the site implies, users can “like” others, which can then lead to more interaction. The ratings approach, encouraging snap judgments, is similar to HotOrNot, which also added an option to meet the people you rate.

The service launched today to capitalize on the Valentine-less. To use it, you must sign into Facebook and give it access to your own profile information. Then, apparently using factors such as interests, age and location, it finds you potential matches. If you’re interested, you click the ubiquitous “like” button. Otherwise, click “next.”

Like Me Date Me claims to be the first to use Facebook’s Like button for online matchmaking, which seems hard to believe. And while it’s also difficult to envision winning many users with the slogan “welcome to the meat market,” it’s certainly a novel use of Facebook’s API. If this functionality it not already integrated into dating sites, I would expect it to be soon.

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December 10, 2011

Dating deja vu

Filed under: date, favorite, memory, relationship — Tags: date, favorite, memory, relationship — admin @ 10:31 pm

By Jess Lander

Oreo cake batter ice cream: my favorite flavor at my favorite ice cream shop, forever ruined because I introduced it to my ex and it became “our flavor.”

I wanted to continue to love this ingenious creation post-breakup, but all it ever led to was dozens of memories of hot summer days down by the Charles River in Boston, back when the idea of breaking up was inconceivable.

But eventually, Oreo cake batter ice cream went down in flames with a handful of favorite bands, songs, movies, TV shows, restaurants and of course, our relationship.

It was the kind of long-term, meaningful, but also devastating relationship that to this day, hovers around everywhere I look; the kind that turned me on to fro-yo, just because it was the completely opposite and healthy alternative to “our” dessert. I was also least likely to run into him that way.

I assume that most everyone has this kind of ex — no matter how much time has passed, no matter how over it you are or how many lovers have passed through since, something always manages to trigger a memory of what was, but is nevermore.

But if his preference for no toppings dueling with mine for loading on the chocolate fudge, caramel and gummy bears wasn’t enough of a sign, his first set of lies probably should have been. You live and learn, and thanks to him, I now have a long list of signs that set off blazing red alarm bells in my head, and I steer clear of any boy with a tribal tattoo, a pet tarantula or symptoms of being a pathological liar — just like my ex.

The memories hurt. I’ve wished I could erase them, “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind”–style, but they’re probably for my own good.

And then there’s the worse kind of ex: the kind that thankfully, you more often than not don’t remember.

The one that was a rebound, a fling or a minor lapse in judgment, tucked away behind your memory until it sort of just fades away with the faces of everyone else you didn’t like too much in college.

After conjuring up these unwanted memories, I can recall that mine A) played Magic the Gathering (at age 20) and B) purposely changed the spelling of his name to a set of letters that were more unusual than actually landing a girlfriend when you’re admittedly playing Magic the Gathering at age 20.

So imagine my revulsion when, as I was on a recent date, something suddenly triggered his memory — complete with shape-shifters, sorcerers and elf warriors alike.

We were at dinner and my date ordered a hamburger. It wasn’t long before I realized that as a result, he had come down with a pretty lethal case of onion breath.

As the night progressed, it bothered me more and more, and when it was time for the goodnight kiss, I could barely stop myself from gagging.

Then it hit me. This wasn’t just any onion breath. This was the same scented onion breath of my misspelled, mistake of a forgotten ex-boyfriend. It all came flooding back. He loved onions, but they took to his breath like I’d never smelled before and despite my refusals to kiss him after the dining hall, he equally refused to stop eating them.

I hated his onion breath more than his stupid, imaginary card game. He’d spoiled four precious months of my college experience; now four years later, here he was, indirectly spoiling my date with someone else.

It definitely didn’t seem fair that my date had to suffer from the actions of an ex, especially one that never really mattered, and especially over something as silly as onions. But I just couldn’t get past the onion breath. Just like I’m not sure I could ever date another guy who sleeps next to a tarantula rather than a teddy bear.

But I guess that’s the point. Maybe each painful scar from every painful relationship serves as a warning sign, protecting us from making the same mistake twice. “Do not enter,” my date’s onion breath seemed to say. “Remember last time?”

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November 28, 2011

8 Tips for Cost-Effective Dating from The Millionaire Matchmaker

Filed under: date, dating, matchmaker, millionaire, show, stanger — Tags: date, dating, matchmaker, millionaire, show, stanger — admin @ 3:31 pm

By Ron Dicker

Even though she’s The Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger knows how to have a good time on the cheap. Stanger, whose fifth season of Matchmaker premieres on Bravo on Monday before returning to its regular Thursday slot on Sept. 1, offered The Price of Fame some dating tips for love-seekers on a budget. (Keep in mind that whoever asks for the date pays for it.)

1. Reasonably priced yummies go a long way. One millionaire on the show confided that he loved See’s candies, a mid-priced chocolatier with a cult following out west. Stanger, also a fan of See’s, encouraged the rich Romeo to buy a box for his date. A 1-pound box of See’s nuts and chews costs about $15 in the store. A 1-pound box of, say, assorted Godiva chocolates can run up to $50. The queen of reality-show courting saved the millionaire — and now you — about $35.

2. Be creative. Unless you’re a royal prince, as is one contestant this season, pick a venue that shows off your initiative more than your bankroll. Stanger recalled a spot off of I-95 in Fort Lauderdale where she used to lie down and feel the landing and ascending airplanes move over her body. Complemented by a bucket of KFC and drinks, that was an evening’s entertainment and a fun way to get to know someone. Economical dating “is about doing those cool and out-of-the-way things,” Stanger says.

3. BYOB. Pick a place where you can bring the wine. Even better, let it be Two Buck Chuck, the Trader Joe’s pocket-change vino marketed under the name Charles Shaw. Stanger adores the stuff. If you go to a restaurant, be advised that industry-wide markups average about 75% over retail, according to winemag.com. In other words, you’re not getting out of your meal for less than $25 on your bar tab alone. Stanger just saved you another $23. Hey, Patti, ever consider the personal-finance biz?

4. Scour papers and blogs for free and low-priced events. Free concerts, art exhibits, plays and old art-house movies can do the trick. You’ll get props for your thoughtfulness when you bring a picnic. The beach is an option, too. The average price for a concert ticket has climbed to $31.57, according to digitalmusicnews.com. That’s up to $31.57 (or $63.14, if you’d be paying for two) more for you to keep in your pocket.

5. Resist the temptation of coffee, lunch or an after-work drink. Yeah, they all cost less than dinner, but you’ll lose a potential relationship. “Romance is the key to dating,” she says. “You can’t get romantic on a coffee. A drink is an audition. Lunch is an interview. Brunch and dinner are romance.” Even in urban areas like Los Angeles, where Matchmaker returns after a year in New York, you can find great brunch places that won’t break your piggy bank.

6. Show off, but only in the right setting. It’s free and it puts you in the best possible light. “If you sing, sing,” Stanger says. “If you dance, dance. Show me your assets, baby. If you’re muscular, wear a tight shirt.” That doesn’t mean you burst into song in the middle of a quiet cafe. Find your moment, like singing along to the radio or at a club. A professional golfer once took Stanger on a date to a miniature golf course. After a much-publicized broken engagement last summer, she is seeing a “starving artist” who is making her a painting. “You want to show that you’re different than everybody,” she says. “It’s about the inner you.” Stanger, however, has strict advice for magicians tempted to strut their stuff: Don’t. Just don’t. “I don’t like magicians,” she says. “They’re creepy. Let’s keep that in the box.”

7. Don’t put yourself in a position to look cheap. It’s the biggest turn-off of all, Stanger warns. If you can’t afford to be somewhere, don’t be there. Stanger says a date once pulled up in a Porsche and requested that they split a tasting menu for one. Stanger’s response? Neh-eh.

8. Don’t talk about money. At all costs. Never thought you’d read that in a personal-finance column, did ya? We’re not sure this tip will save you money, but it will save your dignity.

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September 24, 2011

10 Rules for Chaste Dating

Filed under: activities, children, date, dating, marriage, rules, sexual — Tags: activities, children, date, dating, marriage, rules, sexual — admin @ 3:28 am

By Fr. C. John McCloskey

Ten Ways to Chaste Dating for the over-21 Crowd and for those who live Outside the Home

Please note that teenagers should never “date” without supervision.

Alas, there is little one can do for college students who live in co-ed dorms except follow the below rules to the best of their ability. May St. Joseph and the Blessed Mother be your witnesses.

1. The purpose of dating is to find the person you wish to marry, the one who will become the father or mother of your children. Keep that always in mind and terminate the relationship if and as soon as you realize this is not the person.

2. Never allow yourself to be alone in a closed room or parked car with your date.

3. Always plan to be active on a date. Have activities lined up (backup plans too) so you don’t find yourself in a position or situation of idleness. Offense is good defense. Think of activities that will provide opportunities for growth in knowledge of God, each other, and self. Make a regular practice of worshipping and praying together.

4. Dress appropriately for the occasion but always modestly.

5. Regardless of who “pays” for the date no one “owes” anybody anything.

6. Any actions that cause sexual arousal (need I define them?) are to be avoided, including forms of dancing that are designed to cause it. Help each other to say no.

7. A peck, a quick kiss (mouths closed), a brief hug or holding hands are permissible, they are non-sexual expressions of affection.

8. Don’t kid yourself. You are no different from anyone else. Don’t count on your self-control. You are weak! You just can’t go “so far.”

9. Your soul is at stake and perhaps a happy marriage and a possible vocation.

10. The road to chastity is paved with prayer, the Eucharist, and reading of the New Testament. If you fail, have recourse to the Sacrament of Penance as soon as possible and begin again.

Follow these rules and make sure your date or companion does also and the search for a spouse and courtship can be a joy. Otherwise you may become accomplices in deadly sin and guilty of objectifying another person for sexual pleasure. Keep these rules and you will be able to look at your children right in the eyes when you have to guide them on their way to marriage and family.

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September 12, 2011

Sharing Our Love Of Apple Is A Nice Starting Point

Filed under: apple, apps, cupidtino, date, free, ipad, love, people, talking — Tags: apple, apps, cupidtino, date, free, ipad, love, people, talking — admin @ 11:34 pm

It’s the first-date icebreaker, Apple-style: “Show me your iPhone apps and I’ll show you mine.”

Like thousands of fellow Apple fanboys desperately seeking fangirls, 27-year-old product manager Ayush Agarwal jumped on the Cupidtino dating site and began looking for love. Mac-centric messages started flying. A meet-up was arranged at, of course, an Apple Store. And just like the external mouse they were unveiling that day, things started to click.

“The first thing we talked about was apps,” said Agarwal. “I was apartment hunting so I showed her PadMapper. Then we talked about ’Angry Birds’ for a bit. Meeting through Cupidtino told me she wasn’t just a Mac user — she was a passionate Mac user. So I didn’t feel awkward talking to her about my Mac for an hour, whereas other people might think I’m talking too much about my Mac.”

Agarwal, who’s still friends with the woman, has a lot of company. With 28,000 active members, Cupidtino has become a gathering place for the Apple-intoxicated to share their Mac passions, swap iPad stories, bad-mouth PC users, and maybe, just maybe, find life’s ultimate app.

It all started last spring, when founder Mel Sampat got into an argument with his girlfriend over, yup, his new iPad.

“I was super excited and I kept pushing it towards her over the dinner table,” said the 31-year-old San Francisco app developer. “She just didn’t get it. She’s such a PC. She punches numbers for PG&E and meets with regulators. I’m this geek startup guy developing iPhone apps at home in my pj’s. We’re the typical PC-Apple couple.”

To Sampat, the iPad was the portal to a whole new age of computing. To his girlfriend, it was a toy.

“I said, half-jokingly, ’I can’t be with you. Next time I date someone, I’ll be sure to ask if she’s a Mac or a PC.’ ”

The next morning in the shower, said Sampat, a light bulb went off. “I realized if I were single and went on a date today, the first thing I’d ask is, ’What apps are on your phone?’ ’Angry Bird’? They have a lot of free time. Amex? They’re making sure their finances are in order. I rolled up my sleeves and started the site.”

A day after he launched the site in June, more than 6,000 users had signed up. After a blogger picked it up, traffic started climbing. After all, it was free to join, free to set up a profile, free to reach out to other users and only $4.79 a month to receive messages back.

“We pegged it,” said Sampat, “to the price of a venti mocha at Starbucks in Cupertino,” a reference to Apple’s hometown, which inspired the name. The site sports a clean Apple-like design, requires users to sign up through the Apple-created browser Safari, and gives devotees a forum to, well, bash PC users.

“We needed a dating site like Cupidtino because I honestly think Apple people are a different kind of people,” says Apple person Ronni Estrada, a 23-year-old pharmacy assistant with Kaiser in Southern California. “PC people are kind of naive … but Apple people just kind of get it.”

For now, Cupidtino remains largely a labor of love for Sampan and his co-founder, a Seattle programmer who remains anonymous to protect his job at a major e-commerce company. They say they’re talking with several angel investors, but for now the site pays the men a modest salary, though not enough to live on.

Visitors are greeted on the home page with “Meet an Apple fanboy or girl,” then encouraged to post their photo and answer several profile questions, including “I became a Mac when …” — to which user CuteT40 replied “I was BORN a ’mac’ ”… but started ’using’ in 1990.”

From there you’re on your own.

“Sharing our love of Apple is a nice starting point,” said Lindsey Arasmith, a 25-year-old college student from Sunnyvale who was weaned on Apple products by her programmer dad. “It’s not like we’re just about Apple. But it’s comforting to have that base to fall back on, so that it’s not a completely blind date.”

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